Lately, I’ve been thinking about the idea of being single - not from a place of sadness, but from acceptance. Society often tells us that love and marriage are the ultimate goals, but what if our path looks different? What if solitude itself is part of the plan - a space for peace, growth, and faith?
This post is a reflection on where I currently stand in that journey - learning to embrace my singularity and trusting the rhythm that Allah has set for me.
Embracing My Singularity
Today’s thoughts might sound a little random, but I think I’ve finally started to accept the fact that I might remain single forever. And honestly? It’s not that bad.
I understand the beauty of having a partner - building a family, growing old together, and watching your children grow. It’s a beautiful journey, no doubt. But that beauty also comes with responsibility, maturity, compromise, and sacrifice - all of which require emotional investment. I don’t think I’m ready for that yet, and perhaps Allah knows that best. The version of me right now might not be capable of carrying such responsibilities, and maybe that’s why my path remains singular for now.
As I grow older and see more of the world around me, I find myself uncertain about whether I’m truly ready for married life. I’ll admit it - I’m scared. My cousin once told me, “Not everyone who gets married is truly ready for marriage, but they go through it regardless.” Her words stayed with me. At first, I felt attacked - like she was saying I was just making excuses. But after some reflection, I realized what I was missing wasn’t desire or courage -it was strength.
Not everyone is ready, but some are given the strength to move forward. That’s the difference. And that strength, I believe, is given by Allah.
I once read that constantly wondering “What if?” or “When will it be my turn?” shows a lack of trust in Allah’s plan. Doubting His timing or questioning why our path looks different can actually bring more sadness than peace. We are encouraged instead to surrender - to believe that His plan is always perfect, even when it doesn’t align with what we imagined.
For me, that surrender has become easier with time. I’ve stopped doubting my love life or asking when it will happen. I’ve started to truly accept that if Allah wills for me to remain single, then so be it. In the Qur’an, Allah says, “We created you in pairs,” but it doesn’t necessarily mean that every human in this world is destined to find a soulmate. Some leave this world early, some are simply not meant for marriage, and that too is part of His divine wisdom.
To me, that verse is a reminder of balance - that Allah created opposites to reflect His greatness: light and dark, sun and moon, good and bad. Not every creation must have a pair in this world - perhaps the pairing awaits us in the Hereafter, inshaAllah.
Sometimes I still wonder, of course. But deep down, I’ve made peace with my current path. Whatever Allah has written for me, I will accept wholeheartedly.
So yes - I’m single, and maybe I’ll remain this way. And that’s okay. My story just doesn’t cross that path right now, and maybe, it never will. But even then, I trust that it’s exactly where I’m meant to be.
Maybe the beauty of life isn’t always about finding someone to walk beside you - but learning to walk gracefully on your own, trusting that Allah’s plan is always the most beautiful one. May Allah grant us peace in every stage of our journey - whether we walk it with someone or in solitude - and may our hearts always find contentment in His plan. Ameen.
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